The first person responsible in case your child is unwell is ‘mom’

Social media is both a boon and a curse . While I am here just trying to spread awareness and advocate for my kids, I am constantly blamed for what I do. It's hard to describe the power of the word "mom", a very strong and meaningful word. If something goes wrong with a child, we are the ones to be blamed first. Yet, has anyone asked a mother what it's like when something happens to her children? Despite completely breaking, she still stands strong and is willing to accept blame. To all those who just want to assume that my family was not supportive-- you are 100% wrong. My family was very supportive when I decided to bootle feed my daughter. I will take NO hate against them PERIOD.

As I began posting more and writing more on social media after my daughter was diagnosed with cancer. To bring awareness to the raw life of someone whose child is undergoing cancer treatment, the challenges we face and the dark days we have are not seen by many. In my ignorance, I did not realize that social media support would bring trolls and hate. There are many moms who have supported me and offered me their support. They have assured me that I am not alone on this journey. I'm reassured that I'm not alone and that there are countless people rooting for me and my daughter.

Unfortunately, cancer lives in its own world and does not care about anybody else. Cancer in children almost always results from a mutation in the DNA, which is not passed on, but happens randomly. In spite of the fact that science still does not know the exact cause, people typically blame the mother. In one such occasion, I was browsing my phone and found that I had received many messages, most of them supportive, a few blaming me for my daughters illness. After reading those messages, I began to cry and I was shaken to my core. It is only logical that if eating meat, choosing formula over breastmilk, or sending my child to daycare because I enjoy my job, that these things led to my daughters cancer, I will just have to laugh about it and move on. It astounds me how easily women blame other women.

People need to educate themselves and stop blaming mothers for their children's misfortunes. There is a lot that one goes through as it is. Any mother will go up any beyond for their child's good health, so STOP blaming them.. Motherhood is tough and we moms only learn by getting it wrong, nobody is perfect. I am NOT against breastfeeding, but if a mom chooses not to breastfeed her child, please do not make her feel guilty. It is her decision to choose and do what is best for her and the baby.

So, to all the moms out there, whether your child is undergoing cancer treatment or simply experiencing health issues, give yourself grace and don't criticize yourself; you're trying your best.

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